I have known Bruce Bayne since I
first went to seminary at ETS in Cambridge in 1973. I vividly recall our first
meeting. Bruce came by the apartment of
our mutual friends Addison and Jody Hall to say he was going to the market and
did they want him to get anything? Addison said yes, he could pick up a box of Quaker
All-Natural Cereal with Raisins and Dates.
He showed Bruce the box and began rather tiresomely to insist that Bruce
get it right and repeat the name of the cereal back to him several times: “Quaker
All-Natural Cereal with Raisins and Dates”.
Bruce rather sardonically agreed and took off. An hour later he was back
with a big bag of groceries. He reached into the bag and pulled out a giant box
of Count Chocula. “I’m not sure I remembered what you asked for. Is this what
you wanted?” he asked. Shortly after Addison’s meltdown, Bruce pulled out not one
but two boxes of the Quaker all-natural cereal, and peace was restored. I think
I actually ended up with the box of Count Chocula.
For many years I considered Bruce my
best friend. We knew each other through some operatic ups and downs for over 40
years, and life with him was always kind of like the oscillation between Quaker
All-Natural Cereal and Count Chocula. He could be incredibly provocative. And
he could be unbelievably generous. He could be angry, and he could be gentle. Our
mutual friend Harvey Guthrie used to say that one person’s hard dichotomy is
another person’s creative tension. Knowing and loving Bruce was often both.
We’re gathered to remember and give
thanks for Bruce’s life and ministry in the context of the Eucharist, the
aspect of the church’s life that I know Bruce took most seriously. In a way,
all three readings talk about the Eucharist and the community that Eucharist creates
over time. They also talk about death and what lies ahead for Bruce, and you,
and me. The Isaiah reading [Isaiah 25: 6-9] portrays the final gathering of God
with God’s people as a feast:
On
this mountain the LORD of hosts will make for all peoples
a
feast of rich food, a feast of well-aged wines,
of
rich food filled with marrow, of well-aged wines strained clear.
And
he will destroy on this mountain
the
shroud that is cast over all peoples, the sheet that is spread over
all
nations;
he
will swallow up death forever.
The
passage from Revelation [Revelation 21: 2-7] shows the last things as the new
Jerusalem where God dwells among us mortals and wipes away tears from our eyes,
saying:
It
is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the
beginning
and the end. To the thirsty I will give water as a gift from
the
spring of the water of life. Those who conquer will inherit these
things,
and I will be their God and they will be my children.
And
then, of course, we have the familiar gospel passage in which Jesus announces
that we all have been provided for [John 14: 1-6]:
Do
not let your hearts be troubled.
Believe
in God, believe also in me.
In
my Father’s house there are many mansions.
If
it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for
you?
Standing as I am in Bruce’s pulpit, I’m
not sure how to talk about these scriptures in a manner that is both respectful
of our conventional pieties and faithful to Bruce. We use a lot of sentimental
language to talk about both the church and death, and Bruce would have none of
that. We often compare the church to a family. Bruce’s birth family did not
treat him very well, so he did not particularly warm up to that image. We often
talk about death as a passing from one realm to the next, but Bruce would scoff
when in the presence of Hollywood visions of the afterlife. Bruce believed in
community, and he believed in resurrection. So in the time remaining, let me
say a word about the church and a word about whatever it is that comes next not
only for Bruce but for you and me, too.
Bruce Bayne spent his life in the
church. His father, Stephen Bayne, was probably the last Episcopal bishop to
have the kind of superstar career that doesn’t seem available to clergy anymore.
In Bishop Bayne’s day, clergy were still culturally prominent the way they no
longer are, and he was a larger-than-life public figure. For Bruce to choose to
go into the same business as his famous father was, from the beginning, playing
a losing game. And yet Bruce persisted. And he persisted, I believe, not
because of some unresolved oedipal conflict but because he really believed all
this stuff.
In my second year at EDS, Bruce and
I did an independent study with California’s own Henry Shires on the theology
of Paul. I remember two things from
that course. One was the way Bruce skillfully derailed Dr. Shires from the assigned
reading whenever he came unprepared. If
Dr. Shires asked Bruce a direct question about something he hadn’t read, Bruce
would reply with a question of his own: “Dr. Shires, isn’t this just another
example of the Gnostic influence on the apostle Paul?” Shires, always a
defender of Paul’s orthodoxy, would run to the bookshelf like one of Pavlov’s
dogs and we’d be off for an hour of spirited refutation of any Pauline Gnosticism.
Case closed. Bruce was safe for another week.
The other thing I remember, though,
is Bruce’s keen interest in Paul’s understanding of the church and his vision
of resurrection. For Paul, as for Bruce, the church was not a voluntary
association of like-minded people. For Paul, as for Bruce, the church was
literally the body of Christ here on earth. It was a sacred thing, an aspect of
God’s incarnation. Bruce gave his life to the church because, believing as he
did, he could do nothing else.
In the same way as Paul did, Bruce
rejected the idea of death and resurrection as metaphors for the coming of
spring and new life. They were radical, eschatological things. We die, and we’re
really dead. And then in God’s own time, we rise. Bruce believed and preached
resurrection. But he knew what we all have to go through to get there.
A couple of thoughts about Bruce’s
life in the church. First, he was a great pastor. Bruce had a painful
childhood, and while the vestiges of that pain made him an often difficult
husband, father, or friend, the remembered trauma made him a wonderful pastor.
Bruce could feel with and reach out to people who were up against it,
especially in sick rooms and on death beds.
Second, Bruce was a great preacher. He
was, in fact, a white-hot preacher, refusing ever to sugarcoat his understanding
of the Gospel. His preaching was brilliant but dangerous. It was not for your average
polite Episcopalian. Bruce was relentlessly theological in everything he did,
and he suffered fools, not only ungladly but at all. While this tendency
enlivened his preaching it also made his life in the church complicated. He
loved it here at St. Luke’s, but he had a bumpy ride on the ecclesiastical road
getting here. He didn’t often make great career choices, and the all too human
institutionality of the church was always letting him down. He had such a high theology
of the body of Christ that the Protestant Episcopal Church in the United States
of America could never quite live up to it. I used to remind him of the words
of Flannery O’Connor: “Sometimes we suffer as much from the church as for it.”
Cold comfort, but there it is.
And then there is resurrection. Probably
because in our work we both did so many funerals, Bruce and I used to talk about
death a lot. For a time I served a church in the Main Line of Philadelphia
where, because we had the fashionable society churchyard we did probably three
funerals a week, and I began to tire of the endless stream of eulogies that
almost always concluded with, “I know he is playing golf or tennis or sailing up
there with Jesus in heaven.” Bruce would have none of that. He had a fierce,
eschatological faith. More than anyone I have ever known, Bruce Bayne not only
preached resurrection; he believed in it. But for resurrection to be real death
has to be real. . Before we can say Bruce will rise, we must acknowledge that
he has died. Bruce would not have me say that he is somewhere now up there driving
Alfa Romeos with Jesus in heaven’s version of Italy. But he would have me say
that, when all is said and done, he and we will rise as Jesus did. I do not
look for Bruce’s spirit to be wafting around the cosmos. I do look for Bruce to
stand with Jesus and you and me at the last day.
Like many clergy, Bruce early on
devised his own blessing, one taken from a collect in our Evening Prayer
liturgy. Standing behind the altar at the end of the service, he would say:
Tend
the sick, give rest to the weary, bless
the dying, soothe the suffering, pity the afflicted, shield the joyous.
And then he would bless all of us. In
some sense, this prayer provided the mission statement for Bruce’s ministry. In
his life and work, Bruce did “in point of fact” as he was wont to say, “tend
the sick, give rest to the weary, bless the dying, soothe the suffering, pity
the afflicted, shield the joyous”. He was the real deal both as priest and
friend. I am so grateful for the gift in my life of Bruce George Cuthbert
Bayne. He was one of the two or three funniest people I have ever known, and I
grew up in Hollywood. He was one of the two or three most theologically honest
and grounded people I have ever known. And he was a faithful, constant, and
generous friend. True, he spent his life in a kind of emotional pain that could
not help spilling into the lives of the people he loved. But when all was said
and done, he loved those people fiercely, far beyond his capacity to show it. I
owe a lot of what I know about love and death and God and friendship to Bruce,
and I am profoundly thankful, even in the midst of all that pain, for the
inexpressible gift of his life and ministry. And I look forward, in hope, as he
did to that feast on God’s mountain, to that mansion in Jesus’s father’s house,
to that gathering around God’s throne, where God will wipe away all tears from
our eyes—yours, mine, and especially, Bruce’s. Amen.